Break Free From Depression Helplessness

I recently posted an article to my website about how certain beliefs underpin stress, depression and anxiety. One of the main beliefs I briefly introduced concerns helplessness. Helplessness is a major part of these illnesses so let's look at how you can reduce the impact this flawed belief has.Believing you are helpless in life is a truly terrible feeling and I write from personal experience here. For five years, a number of traumatic events led me to the point where I believed life held nothing but pain and anguish. I truly believed life would unfold in a way that would destroy me and there wasn't a single thing I could do about it.


Perhaps you've felt this way too?The underlying belief is the important factor here. It is a firm belief that life is something that happens to you and you have NO CONTROL over anything. In short, you are a powerless, passive recipient for whatever life decides to throw at you.It is an awful state to be in. Furthermore, this belief simply isn't true.Let me give an example. Say you and your partner split up. Now, this can be one very traumatic experience, I've been through it, so have many others. You react in a highly negative and emotionally arousing way:"I'm devastated. He/she was my whole world and now my world has fallen apart. Everything I do in life always goes wrong and this is another disaster. I'll never be happy again."Wow. It's a powerful reaction isn't it? I'm sure you, like me, have either reacted this way to an event or you've heard someone react this way. It is a very damaging way to assign a meaning to an event you are confronted with.The last two sentences reveal the belief in helplessness. The key words are: Everything always goes wrong and never be happy again. When you react in such a way, you are telling yourself that you are helpless because nothing has ever gone right for you and you'll never be happy no matter what. You're saying you cannot control anything and therefore, you truly believe you're helpless.


How do you think you'll feel when you react like this? Exactly. You'll feel deeply unhappy, confused, frustrated and of course, helpless to change your life. Why would you feel anything else? Everything ALWAYS goes wrong and you'll NEVER be happy again so what's the point of doing anything to create change?Do you see how helplessness works? But it simply isn't true. Of course, there are many things in life that are entirely beyond your control. Other people and Mother Nature to name but two. There are things in life you have some control over where you live and work for example. It is important to keep these facts about control firmly in mind.Here's the most important fact about helplessness: There is one thing you have full control over in your life and that is how you react and assign meanings to everything you are confronted with. In the example above, a better reaction would be:OK, my relationship hasn't worked but other things in my life are going well and I'll concentrate on them for a while as I come to terms with what's happened. Just because this relationship hasn't worked out, it doesn't mean future relationships will fail and once I've got over this, I'll get out there and find someone better."


So take care of yourself. You are the most special person there in on this planet. There is no one else even remotely like you that has your talents, skills or abilities. You simply cannot be replaced and you have important things to do with your life. The only person you can control is yourself, so take care of yourself first and foremost. Everyone and everything else is out of your control. Start doing those things today that make you feel good. You know what they are. We're all counting on it!

I'm glad you found my site and I hope this information is what you are looking for. Do you know the difference between being depressed or just sad? I really think most people know the difference. It is normal to feel sad from time to time. Everyone somewhere, sometime in lives will experience sadness. Sadness is a natural reaction to something painful which has happened. Depression is more extreme. It is a clinical illness which has a lot more symptoms than sadness and ... Information about the Author: This article has been made accessible by the author,Bank Koapit.Should you require any further information regarding back ache ,please visit his sciatica treatment resources Disease and Illness Articles: http://www.article-buzz.com

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