9 Things To Avoid When Dating:

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In the dating world there are many things that turn people off. Preparing for a date can be a quite anxiety ridden task, especially when you are unsure of what would really turn a person off.    Here are the top ten things that you should never do on a date.

1. Never overdress for a first date.  You should make sure that you are comfortable in what you are wearing.  This does not mean going out in your stay at home on a Saturday night garb, but rather keep it as casual as possible. There is no bigger turn off then someone who does not dress nicely for a date. 


2. Don’t overdo it on the first date.  This means that you should no take your date on the Ultimate Dating Experience on the first date.  Keep it very simple for your first encounter with a new partner.  Consider sticking to something pretty public like dinner and a movie.  This will not only allow you to enjoy each others company, but it will also give you plenty of things to talk about while on the date. 


3. Never be late.  This means that if you told your date that you would be ready by 7, then be ready by 7.  Take the time to be ready early.  There is no bigger turn off then someone who is late.  Being late implies that you don’t really find you date important enough to be on time.  Besides, if you are meeting your date somewhere and are late, they are prime targets for someone else to step in and take your date. 


4. Lack of funds.  Never, ever in a million years forget your wallet.  This is a very old school excuse that will only paint a picture of you as being extremely cheap.  Also, there are some women out there that insist on paying for their own meal or drink.  This is okay to a point, but if someone is offering don’t appear over independent, let them pay.  In a twist on this, in the new age of dating, many women are paying for their date.  This will give you notice as one who will share. 


5. Never pick up the phon while on your date.  In fact, leave your phone in the car or at home.  If you can’t do this (ie you’re a doctor and on call) then at least don’t answer it every time it rings.  Your date will think that you are really not interested in them and are looking for a way out of the date.  If your phone does ring while on the date and you check to see who it is but don’t answer it, you will score big time points with your date.  As females, you should always carry a cell phone on your date for safety reasons only.  Use in case of emergency.


6. Bragging problems.  Spending the entire evening talking about yourself and how much money you make and spend is probably the biggest turn off to any potential partner (unless you have matched up with a gold digger).  If you do this, you date will probably find the quickest route to the door.  Instead, ask questions about your date.  Encourage your date to have a reciprocal conversation where you can learn about each other to see if you are compatible.  If you have nothing to talk about but yourself, then avoid the dating scene until you become a better, more rounded person. 


7. The complainer.  Everyone has experienced this type of date at least once.  You know the one where your date does nothing but complain about the city, the food, the movie, health issues, dietary issues that prevents them from eating and drinking certain things etc.  No one wants to sit through a date like this.  If you find that your date is doing this type of conversation then make a quick excuse and get out fast.  If you find that you are doing this, there is a way to salvage the date… stop doing it as quickly as possible.  Change the subject to something that you both have in common.  Talk about recent movies or current events.  Ask about what they enjoy doing and go from there.  If you don’t stop the whining don’t complain about it when the date does not call you back.


8. Rudeness.  Never, ever be rude to anyone when on a date.  Your date is taking stock of every move you make while on your date and it is a big turn off when rudeness comes into play.  This means that if your food was bad, be polite and let the waiter know instead of being loud and obnoxious so that the whole restaurant can hear.  The other thing that you need to do is curb your bodily noises.  This means excuse yourself if you burp, try to avoid gaseous overload and avoid talking about embarrassing subjects that borderline on rude.  You should also avoid racial jokes and slurs and dirty stories.  Save these for a time when you know your date a little bit better.  Overall, be sweet, even if you don’t want to. 


9. Sex, Sex, Sex.  Yes, ultimately this is the goal of the dating scene these days.  However, the rules for this one are simple.  Avoid wearing clothing that would generally imply that you are freer with your sexual being.  Avoid moving in too close and fast on a first date.  Never jump into bed on the first date.  You never know if this date is a keeper or not, so avoid jumping in the sack too quickly.  You might even want to skip the good night kiss.  This will make your date think that you value the intimacy. 

Information about the Author: Abagaile Odalis is a family and relationship professional with 12 years of experience in this field. She has written two revolutionary books on how to Seduce Women and the other to Attract Men. Society and Culture Articles: http://www.article-buzz.com

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